I read something today that really got me thinking and motivated about the way I view my life right now. My life is my creation. I have chosen who to start a family with, I have chosen my job, I choose my friends, and I choose the mental state that I am in. With all of these choices being mine, then why do I feel unsatisfied with my life. Does that mean that I am failing myself? No, it is because I choose to feel that way, and I choose to let negativity and negative things into my life. My brother-in-law said something that caught my attention, he was talking about how if food is unhealthy then he doesn't let it in his house that way it can't be eaten. This is the analogy that I am going to choose this moment forward with my life, if it is unhealthy then I will not let it in.
The way that I am going to change my creation is to first change my mental state. This is something I have been working on, and I need to continue to drive towards the goal of keeping positivity alive in me at all times. Finding positivity in all things is a different approach for me, and it is new so I am not that adept with it, but I know that is what I want, therefore I choose positivity as my mental state.
Now that my mental state is set on positivity, it is time to use this in my family. I have chosen my wife and she is the closest person to me. She knows me better than anybody else does, and I know her better than anybody else does. That is something I used to think was a negative, because we both know what buttons to push to make the other upset. More than I should, I push those buttons with great eager. That is something that I choose to change. We have two beautiful boys, and I do not want them growing up with parents at each other all the time. It is time to find the positive side of our relationship, and the fact that I know her better than anybody else should mean that I know how to make her happy more than anybody else does. This is what I have chosen my goal to be in my family, because if mama is happy everyone is happy.
I have fewer friends now than I have ever had. This is due to my expectations of them. I feel if they do not follow these certain characteristics then they are not worthy of being my friend. I read somewhere that people act as if they have resume for their friends and if they do not follow it then they are not my friend. This is how I have treated my friends in the past. Instead of trying to be their friend, I wanted them to try to be mine. I choose to make my friends meaningful, and I am now choosing to be their friend. I choose to fit in their resume and not vice versa.
My job is something that I dont particularly care for. It is there for one thing and that is to pay the bills. Usually I have a negative connotation when I talk about work, or the mere thought about work will bring about negativity and things I do not like about it. The fact that I call it work, is already a name that has a negative tone to it. When I think about my job in a positive mental state, I can see some positives there. The hours are great, I make enough money to provide for my family, I get paid time off for every holiday, and the people I work with are very fun to be around. Wow, just writing that tells me more than what I could ask for in a job. I think I will call work, RECESS, from now on. I used to love recess and it was my favorite time of the day. Just saying I am going to recess tomorrow actually sounds fun. I choose to enjoy RECESS for all the benefits that come along with it.
Just now when I was reading this post I started to think about my life in a new way. It is now my creation, I have the power to choose the life I want, so why not want a good one. I am a very lucky person to have my life in order the way it is, and sure I have hit bumps in the road but the bumps should not change my mental state. Now that I can see my life in this way, it is time to go out and seize it and enjoy all the gifts that I have chosen to have.
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